PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE
My husband left for Italy two years after our marriage and has been there for twelve years. We have a son who is about thirteen years old. He has been to Nigeria only twice. He made effort to take me over there twice but I was refused visa. This was about three years after he left the country. When I bring the issue of our living apart, he keep saying that life in Italy is not easy. I am just there and facing a lot of temptations and I am still young. I have never cheated on him I do not know what to do. Since last year, he told me that I should stop calling him randomly. He has given me tell to call now. Should I move on or still wait believing he will relocate me and the son, one day? Please, help me. ANONYMOUS
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If he did not abandone you to Italy, and you supported his relocation plan from the beginning, you may have to stand by the outcome.
“Facing a lot of temptations and I am still young” and seeking counsel on what to do, all suggest that you are more emotionally out of the marriage, than in.
Yes, the bible stated “to avoid furnication, marry” , belive me, without discipline, married people will still commit infidelity. If marriage is the remedy for fornicatiion, then our numerous single sisters would have been furnicating allover the place, but that is not true. Many of them that are far older than you are not jumping from bed to bed, yet, you are graced to be 2 steps ahead of them (marriage and child birth). Temptation is not peculiar to you nor to distant marriage, Temptation is every where. It is a matter of choice and discipline. What you give your heart to, dominats you.
Again, there is a huge difference between like and love, green light and marriage. It is one thing to come out of a marriage, it is another to remarry. I am not saying it is impossible, but note, that many have ‘escaped into danger’
Find out why he has restricted your call. Is it work or relationship (adultery)? If adultary, there is a scriptural provision for you to leave the marriage, if you are so eager.